You guys did it again! Great advice to the last post. I’m so down in the weeds here that I often can’t see the big picture, which in this case is the fact that I can get my two-year-old’s yelling under control. Since he’s my first child and I don’t know much about kids I tend to lag behind in terms of my expectations for his behavior. Last time I checked he was only eighteen months old, this whole thing about him being two sort of snuck up on me. 🙂
Although my current system for discipline is going to need some fine tuning.
A few months ago I introduced the dreaded “naughty mat”. I watch Super Nanny so I had this all figured out. I picked out an old red placemat and kept it handy, just waiting for the right opportunity to use it. A couple days later when DB was overtired and had a molar coming in he was really cranky and I was presented with a great opportunity to use it about fifteen minutes into our day.
DB started throwing a fit about the shirt I’d chosen for him to wear, so I took him to the naughty mat. I explained what it was, and calmly told him that while he was screaming he had to sit on the naughty mat and would not get what he wanted. I thought I’d heard somewhere that you need to wait to start the “time out” time until the child is sitting there of his own free will. So…45 MINUTES LATER…I was still holding him there while he screamed.
At that point it was past time to feed the baby and my stamina was wearing out, so I decided to jump on the first opportunity to pronounce his punishment fulfilled. He took a long breath in between screams and I commended his calmness, counted to ten as fast as I could and told him he could now get up.
As soon as I picked up the placemat to put it away he started throwing a fit again…because he wanted to sit on the naughty mat some more.
Touche, DB. Touche.
Parenting is such a humbling experience.
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