Just as I was about to start my day this morning, I picked up the phone to hear the warm, humble voice of a dear friend of my family whom I hadn’t seen in months. She doesn’t speak much English and my Spanish is not great, but I was able to make out that she was saying something about bathrooms…cleaning bathrooms…cleaning a kitchen…she was asking if she could come clean my house! Just out of the kindness of her heart. Despite the fact that she does back-breaking work six days a week, she found herself with a little free time and thought that since I’m eight months pregnant and have three little ones I might be able to use some housecleaning help. And she was offering to do some of the detail work I most loathe, like cleaning toilets.
So did I want her to come do it?, she wanted to know.
In the three-second pause that ensued I thought something like, “THERE IS NO WAY I COULD ACCEPT THIS IT’S JUST TOO MUCH WORK AND SHE WORKS SO HARD ANYWAY AND I DIDN’T EVEN SEND HER A BIRTHDAY CARD AND IT’S NOT LIKE IT’S IMPOSSIBLE THAT I COULD DO IT MYSELF AND IT MIGHT BE KIND OF AWKWARD AND IT WOULD THROW OFF MY SCHEDULE FOR TODAY AND WHAT IF SHE THINKS MY HOUSE IS A MESS AND WHAT IF SHE GETS HERE AND SEES THE STATE OF OUR BATHTUB AND REGRETS EVER ASKING AND I JUST CANNOT LET A FRIEND CLEAN MY TOILETS AND…and, honestly? I do kind of need the help.”
My mind flashed to all your comments to this post about accepting help, and I thought of what so many of you said about how we can bless others by accepting their offers of help. And I managed to shut of my neurotic thoughts for a moment and just say, “Yes. I would be so blessed to have your help today.” (Actually, since I was speaking in Spanish I probably said “Yes. I am blessing to help you today.” But she knew what I meant.)
I got a sparkling clean kitchen and bathrooms, as well as the sheets on our bed washed and changed — all work that I’d been putting off because it’s so tiring for me right now. But, most importantly, I got to spend some time with an old friend, and the opportunity to let her know just what a dear treasure she is to us and how very, very much she blessed my family with her help today.
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