- “Was there one specific moment when you knew you were ready to get married? If so, what was the final factor in feeling sure?”
- “Did you ever wonder if you were making a mistake?”
- “Did you feel 100% certain that he was ‘the one’?”
Unfortunately I don’t think I’m the best person to give advice on this subject, since prayer, God and faith didn’t factor into my decision at all. I have a great marriage, but my prayer-less discernment process isn’t one I’d recommend to others. For what it’s worth, I’d say that I “just knew.” Though, for those looking for something more concrete, I’d say that the following three factors were important in that decision-making process:
- Our relationship got better over time, not worse.
- We handled disagreements well. Though we didn’t argue often, when we did see things differently, we could work it out without things getting nasty.
- I couldn’t imagine life without him. To paraphrase something I once heard a priest say at a friend’s wedding, it wasn’t just that I could imagine spending the rest of my life with my then-boyfriend, but that I couldn’t imagine not spending the rest of my life with him.
I think that all of those factors are good for anyone to consider, but I’d like to offer my young readers some practical advice from a faith-based perspective as well. So I’m going to turn this one over to you:
I’d love for those of you who are married to share your wisdom: What practical tips do you have for prayerful discernment for choosing a spouse? How did you know your spouse was “the one”?
P.S. Today is our seventh wedding anniversary! Click here to read a post about how our marriage has changed since our conversions.
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