On planning babies: Jen from seven years ago talks with Simcha Fisher


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail Seven years ago, I found myself in a place of great upheaval. I was in the middle of a profound religious conversion and found myself in a no-man’s land, adrift from my old belief system, yet not fully integrated into my new one. Around that time that I came across a small blog by… [Continue Reading]

Never say never, and other thoughts on having more kids


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail Some folks have asked if my doctors are putting pressure on me not to have more children. I usually respond with a sound like hoooooo-ho-ho-hooooo (which is not supposed to be a sound like what Santa says, but rather a hearty laugh to indicate, YOU HAVE NO IDEA). The doctors have said this before,… [Continue Reading]

A conversation with my gay friend

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail The other day we got together with a friend of mine from high school named Andrew*, and his boyfriend, Tom. They moved out of state earlier this year, but a business trip brought him and Tom back through town recently, and we jumped at the chance to go out to dinner with them. This… [Continue Reading]

My life changing diapers


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail Now that I’m visibly pregnant, I get asked more and more often for a detailed plan of how many more children I’ll have and when I’ll be “done.” Much of the time, “Congratulations” is swiftly followed by one of the following questions: “So, is this the last one?” “How many more are you going… [Continue Reading]

My answer to “Do you want more children?”


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail When people see me out and about with my four young children, one of the most common questions I get is, “Do you want more?” (Or, more accurately, “DO YOU WANT MORE?!?!?!?!“) I’m never sure what to say. “Yes” doesn’t sound quite right. Our fourth baby in four-and-a-half years is only eighteen months old,… [Continue Reading]

How I went from lifelong atheism to orthodox Catholicism (Audio)

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail My story + 7 lessons I learned about conversion Thursday night I was honored to be asked to share my conversion story with the RCIA (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults) group at St. Elizabeth’s parish here in central Texas. I wanted listeners to be able to take something away that they could apply… [Continue Reading]

Why my life is better since becoming open to life

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail “You guys aren’t really going to have any more after this one, right?” a few people have asked me privately. “We thought about having another, but the sleepless nights, the diapers, the pregnancy and birth — ugh! Aren’t you just so ready to be done with all that?” a neighbor asked at the playground… [Continue Reading]

Thank God for surprises, part II

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail This is a Part II to this post. So there I was a few weeks ago, moping around the house, nauseated and exhausted, thinking: How could it possibly be a good thing to have a baby right now? Is it not a bit of a stretch to say that “it must be God’s plan”… [Continue Reading]

Thank God for surprises, part I

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail I can finally talk about something that’s been on my mind for a while: I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago. Since we had just had three babies in three years, we definitely didn’t feel like this was the right time for baby #4. Honestly, I felt like I’d checked the… [Continue Reading]

It’s nothing personal

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail I came across something in Food and Wine this weekend that reminded me of the topics I was talking about over at America. The fabulous Joel Stein wrote a piece about hitting the L.A. nightlife scene with some of America’s top chefs. He writes of the following exchange at one of their stops: At… [Continue Reading]