On planning babies: Jen from seven years ago talks with Simcha Fisher


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail Seven years ago, I found myself in a place of great upheaval. I was in the middle of a profound religious conversion and found myself in a no-man’s land, adrift from my old belief system, yet not fully integrated into my new one. Around that time that I came across a small blog by… [Continue Reading]

Never say never, and other thoughts on having more kids


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail Some folks have asked if my doctors are putting pressure on me not to have more children. I usually respond with a sound like hoooooo-ho-ho-hooooo (which is not supposed to be a sound like what Santa says, but rather a hearty laugh to indicate, YOU HAVE NO IDEA). The doctors have said this before,… [Continue Reading]

A conversation with my gay friend

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail The other day we got together with a friend of mine from high school named Andrew*, and his boyfriend, Tom. They moved out of state earlier this year, but a business trip brought him and Tom back through town recently, and we jumped at the chance to go out to dinner with them. This… [Continue Reading]

My answer to “Do you want more children?”


FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail When people see me out and about with my four young children, one of the most common questions I get is, “Do you want more?” (Or, more accurately, “DO YOU WANT MORE?!?!?!?!“) I’m never sure what to say. “Yes” doesn’t sound quite right. Our fourth baby in four-and-a-half years is only eighteen months old,… [Continue Reading]

Why my life is better since becoming open to life

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail “You guys aren’t really going to have any more after this one, right?” a few people have asked me privately. “We thought about having another, but the sleepless nights, the diapers, the pregnancy and birth — ugh! Aren’t you just so ready to be done with all that?” a neighbor asked at the playground… [Continue Reading]

Thank God for surprises, part II

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail This is a Part II to this post. So there I was a few weeks ago, moping around the house, nauseated and exhausted, thinking: How could it possibly be a good thing to have a baby right now? Is it not a bit of a stretch to say that “it must be God’s plan”… [Continue Reading]

An exciting life

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail This isn’t the Part II to my last post, it’s actually an older post that was originally published on August 27, 2007, the day before labor was scheduled to be induced for baby #3. I wasn’t planning on doing another post in the Flashback Series this week, but given the subject matter and that… [Continue Reading]

Thank God for surprises, part I

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail I can finally talk about something that’s been on my mind for a while: I found out I was pregnant a few weeks ago. Since we had just had three babies in three years, we definitely didn’t feel like this was the right time for baby #4. Honestly, I felt like I’d checked the… [Continue Reading]

Contraception and a woman’s self-image

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail On the rare occasions that I used to think about the prospect of having a large family before my conversion, one of the first things that would come to mind is, “Just think of what my abs would look like! And years and years of nursing babies wouldn’t exactly leave me looking like a… [Continue Reading]

Openness to life – in theory and in practice

FacebookTwitterLinkedInPinterestPrintE-mail I‘ve talked a lot on this blog about the contraception aspect of converting to Catholicism. Before I discovered the Church I’d never even thought twice about it. I didn’t even know that anyone was seriously against it anymore. I thought that it was one of those things like water and air that we all… [Continue Reading]